To truly comprehend violence and the angry feelings that lead to it, one must know the 4 basic root causes of anger. Even more than that, one must understand the deepest sense of who we are, our personal way of being. There are two ways to be; one is responsive and the other is resistant. A responsive individual is open and understanding; whereas, a resistant individual is closed, unkind, and uncaring. Resistant, self-deceived offenders commit violent crimes from the deepest sense of who they are. -All criminals commit violence in their hearts and minds long before their hands do. -The sign of violence is not a hit, but a way of being. -Being violent is a choice. -Nonviolence, like violence, is deeper than behavior. It's a way of being. -Resistant people disconnect themselves from the feelings of themselves and those around them. -Those who are resistant believe, "I violate others by treating them as an object. In this process I elevate myself." -In the resistant way of being, "I batter for power without mercy or kindness." -When children are violated, future generations are devastated. -"When I violate others, I produce a violence in them that justifies me in violating them" -In the resistant way of being, "I invite problems into my life, not solutions." -In the violent way of being, "I portray myself in ways that justify me and makes the wrong I do seem right." -Resistant people inhibit the flow of life's energy, repel other people, and live selfish lives. -Violence springs from the very essence of who I am, and who I am destroys me. Violence in society is brought on by the way of being of its citizenry. To remove violent behavior, an individual must leave his or her resistant ways and become responsive. This requires an entire change of being. A program that does not help individuals at the deepest level will, without a doubt, fail. Anger management and behavior modification methods are just short-term fixes that don't go deep enough to create life-long changes. Cognitive restructuring, when done correctly, is a proven intervention that allows men and women to become "self aware" and thus more willing to change their personal way of being. Cognitive restructuring isn't force but rather an invitation to change. It intervenes at the deepest level where permanent changes can take place. NOTE: Use of this article requires links to be intact.
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