The male mind is a fascinating piece of machinery, and it works in very mysterious ways. As an ideal example, let's take the concept of gifts. Often when a birthday, holiday, or other notable event approaches, you'll find yourself dropping obvious hints about what you'd like to get for a present. "Oh, sweetie, look at this ring in this catalog." But then when its time to open your present (assuming he even remembered) it isn't the ring...it's a set of oregano-scented bath soaps. "I know how much you like oregano, because you use it in all of your recipes. So I figured this was the perfect gift. See how well I know you?" The reason for this is rather simple: the male works on the basis of "credit." If he does something nice for you, he wants credit for it. This isn't simply an acknowledgement of the deed; its an emotional validation of his thoughtfulness. The problem here is:if you TELL him what to get you, and he gets it for you, he doesn't think he'll get full credit, because it wasn't his idea. For whatever reason, men believe giving you what you ask for is the equivalent of a child being forced to say he's sorry when he really isn't. It's better to surprise you with something different, because then he gets credit for showing how thoughtful AND how creative he is. And forget the idea that the man should get credit for listening to you; that never enters his mind. So the solution here is simple: you need to be more subtle about your hints. Mention a friend got something and how jealous you are of them; you might get one too. Or, be sneaky: write down a list of things you want, calling it "My Dream Gift List" or something like that. Then put it in a pink folder and leave it under a book near your computer, along with a few magazine clippings with no relation to anything. If you make it a point to tell your man NOT to look in the folder, because it is private, you can just about guarantee that he will. Then when he gets you a gift from the list, you can act all surprised and tell him how amazing it is that he knows you SO WELL, because its JUST what you wanted.
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