Your first time speaking in public may have been in school. It probably felt dreadful when your teacher chose you to answer a question while all your classmates listened in. Running through your mind was probably why he had to pick you and not someone else. You just wanted to sit there and look attentive but not have to participate. You felt your heart pounding. Your breathing was shallow. You wonder if what you'll say makes any sense. How does your answer compare with other students? When you are done, the odd feeling lingers on. You think everyone is still looking at you even while someone else is talking. You've been out of school for years, but the fear of speaking in public is something that remains. Somehow, you have to get those jitters under control. That's because you realize the best man speech is very important and you don't want to mess it up. Is there a way to conquer your anxiety over speaking to an audience without taking a tranquilizer? This sounds like strange advice, but to conquer your fear of speaking to an audience, you have to just do it and do it often. After a few times in the spotlight, you'll start to realize your fear or the bad things that might happen when you speak, doesn't. You find out that the audience isn't out to get you. Instead, they are supportive. For many people, speaking in public isn't something they do often, unless it's part of their job. If you're in this situation, then there is a substitute method of practice. You can try self-hypnosis or visualization. Just imagine yourself starring in your own movie and it's about how you delivered the perfect speech to a crowd. Practice this a few times it's like a mental rehearsal. By the wedding day, you should feel confident about how you'll perform. Don't wait until the last moment to get your speech written. If you get it done early, then you'll remove some of the pressure on the wedding day. You may carry notes with the key points of your speech to reduce your fear that you might forget to say something. Try to become friends with the other people, such as the groomsmen or bridesmaids, if you don't already know them. Then when the wedding day arrives, you will feel more at ease while you make your toast, because there will be many familiar friendly faces in the audience. As you speak to the audience, stay focused on the groom and the bride. Don't let stray thoughts about how you are doing distract you from delivering your message. Being the best man and giving the best man speech and wedding toast is an experience you'll look back upon with pride. Your feelings of anxiety will disappear once you finish your speech and what will replace it is a feeling of exhilaration. Copyright (c) 2006 by Leroy Chan
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