It doesn't matter if you are in a forest, a supermarket, a nightclub, or a busy city - people will be influenced by your social proof. Social proof is one of the most potent ways of influencing the social behavior of others. How does social proof work? Put simply, human beings will often look to others to determine how they should behave and feel. "Since 95 percent of the people are imitators and only 5 percent initiators, people are persuaded more by the actions of others than by any proof we can offer." Cavett Robert The belief behind social proof is: If enough people are thinking/doing it then it MUST be true/the right thing to do. Here's an example: You walk into a bar and immediately start talking to women. Other women who notice this will assume that you are liked by women and thus see you as an attractive option. When you are accepted socially and have a lot of people interested in you, the amount of people who are interested in you will increase exponentially. Think of celebrities. Celebrities are liked by more people the more popular they become. They may also be hated by jealous people, but that isn't their problem. A male celebrity can literally have billions of women who are sexually interested in him. Imagine that! Let's scale it down to normal reality where 99.99% of us won't become superstars or celebrities. Would if be fair to estimate that as a normal guy you could have hundreds of women who are sexually interested in you...each week? The answer you're looking for is YES! * Creating Social Proof if You Aren't a Celebrity or High-Status Person Walk around and behave as if it is your club/party/social event/bookstore/etc and that all the people there are your friends or your guests. Hence my conversation starter that I like to use, "Hey guys - what's happenin...I just got here...this place is cool...what's been happening for you guys so far tonight?" Assume rapport with everyone including the staff. Think about it. If you were a confident social person, how would you behave in your own home when you had guests over? Here are some ideas: - Walk around and say hi to people, "Hey guys, is everyone here having a good time tonight? Excellent...cheers! Then clink glasses with some of them, or just walk off like you are going to 'check in' with the next group. - High-5 people and say "Hi" or "Hey, what's going on!" - Warmly greet the bar staff and waiters like they are old friends. - Confidently project your voice when talking. - Take over a section of the bar/club/venue and make it yours. Stand/sit there, respectfully move tables and chairs to suit, etc. - Introduce yourself to strangers. * Social Proof Through Conversation Although actions will always speak louder than words, social proof can also be related through conversation. Another example: You might start talking to a woman and end up telling her about how you and 10 of your close friends went to the snow last winter and hired out a log cabin. Such a story demonstrates that: a) You have friends. b) You are accepted by a large number of people, who trust you enough to be alone with you. c) You are adventurous enough to go to the snow and stay in a log cabin. * The Gravitational Pull Towards Socially Successful or 'Popular' People Have you ever noticed that people tend to gravitate toward those who have larger social circles, a lot of alliances, or who are popular or successful? Why is that? It's a survival instinct. Long before we developed functional societies that offered goods & services - food, shelter and safety were more easily found when we stuck with a larger tribe. It also meant that we would have more options of people to breed with. In developed worlds, people who maintain large social circles and lots of alliances are viewed with more favor than those who don't. So what should that tell you? Be social, create a lot of alliances and give off signals that you are a high-status male who deserves only the best. Work on creating more success for yourself and build your social circle with relevant people. The result: People will instinctively begin to gravitate towards you to ensure their survival and you will have more opportunities to create even more success with women.
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